How to accomplish your goals and defeat self sabotage.

 Day after day you think to yourself, I can’t get out of this rut and I’m not going anywhere in life. My job is a dead end and I’m always broke.  The relationships I have with others make me depressed and angry.  I feel like I am empty and running on fumes.  

This doesn’t have to be.  The choice is yours to start making a change.  End the cycle by taking the first step. Be realistic and don’t overwhelm yourself by setting a goal that needs time to develop.  

Any goal you want to reach needs a plan. Whether it’s big or small you have to start somewhere. 

I know when my brain starts brewing up an idea or a goal to accomplish, if i don’t start the process with a small step, it’ll never happen. 

First of all whatever goal you want to accomplish use the resources around you to see how others accomplished their goals.  When I wanted to organize my bathroom, I Googled “How to organize your bathroom.”  It’s really that simple. Now on a larger scale I wanted to become a teachers assistant in NY, what did I do? I Googled, “How to become a teachers assistant in NY.”

You have to start somewhere and if you’re anything like me, you’re going to need some help with starting off in the right direction.  If you don’t know, then just ask. 

I can give you so my instances in my life that I needed direction on how to accomplish a goal but the list is never ending. What I want to express to you is that anything is possible but start small so you don’t sabotage yourself or idea by stressing out over it. 

1. Start small. Get a piece of paper and pen, and write down what it is you want to accomplish. Having it written down your more apt to staying on track rather than keeping the thought in your head that will probably be forgotten or pushed aside. 

2. Research on “how to.” If there are others writing about it because they’ve done it, then that’s the type of references you want to follow.  Everyone is different but if you take bits and pieces of how people accomplished their goals, then your bound to come up with a plan that’ll work for you. 

3. Set your wheels in motion. Follow the steps and review your goals each day.  Repetition works great for me and it could help you. 

Every goal needs a plan. Write the goal down that you want to accomplish. Make a plan and start the process small.  

Good luck and if you need a pep talk, I’m your cheerleader!! 


My dream last night

I had a dream about my mom last night. She passed away last August and this was the 2nd dream I had of her but it was a good one. I came in the side door of her house and went to the left a few stairs down into the basement where she washed clothes and was calling to her mom, mom. I heard her voice and she said yes I’m here. Then she came out from the other room in her basement wearing her pajamas and I walked down stairs all the way and said I love you and we started hugging. She said I love you too and it was like I really felt her, smelled her, and could hear her voice. I asked her if I’m wrong. I kept saying, mom am I wrong and she said no honey you’re not. It’s not right what they did to you.

I wonder if that was her coming to me in my dreams or is it my mind thinking this on its own? It felt so real and it was so vivid. The next part of the dream we went up to her kitchen/dining area and she said you have to rent my house. But it was already being occupied by the new owners(as it is now)and when were were standing in the kitchen the new owner came through the back door asking what we were doing in her house. We just started talking and the new owner said, oh I didn’t actually buy this house I’m just renting it and I’ll be out soon. Mean while even though my mom was dead she was still talking with us and the new owner.

I’ve been dreaming so much lately and remembering my dreams but that’s why I had to write this one down because I didn’t want to forget it. I cried when I woke up. A good and bad cry I guess because I really felt her and because I miss her so much. She was all I had left. I don’t talk to my sisters anymore and my dad lives in Florida. I talk with him occassionally but my mom was the only one who really cared about my boys(on my side of the family).

I miss her so much. If anyone knows something about dreams do you have any idea what this is suppose to mean? If there is any hidden meaning behind this one at all?