The choice is yours so who is to say…


Seriously, who is to say that you have to like, love, or do something that you don’t want to? Other than obeying the law, everything and  every choice in life is yours and yours only to make. Some are good choices and some are bad, but they are yours. You’re the one who has to reap the rewards of your choices or pay the consequences.

Okay, what’s the point and what am I trying to get at right?  I have been a NY Giants fan  since I was 15-years-old. And a true fan at that. When they had a bad season other Giants fan ridiculed and said they suck. Me, on the other hand continuously praised them and stuck by their side through thick and thin. In my opinion, that is a true dedicated fan.

Three and a half years ago I met my boyfriend (Mike) who is a Packers fan. All though my love and dedication for the Giants have  never wavered, I did however gained a new respect for the Packers. I love the way they play. Rodgers, Jordy, Clay, Jake, etc., I must say they have it going on. Not only do I enjoy watching the team but the fans are so dedicated and support their team with unconditional love. How awesome is that?

My gripe is that people say there’s no way you can share your dedication to both the GMEN and Packers. You’re a trader. No, no, no. That’s not the case. Who is to say that I can’t share my love for both teams? Is there a fan police patrol that I’m unaware of???  In the scheme of things it is really ridiculous that there should even be a discussion about this kind of thing but then again I guess that’s what makes our world go around. I can love both teams and that is that.

But  “the choice is yours,” goes for anything and everything. You can love or do whatever YOU want to do. My whole life I was a pushover. I didn’t have the ability to say no or voice my opinion. Why?? I was afraid and didn’t have the confidence.

I can say over the years I learned to say what I wanted to and I learned to say no. I know it took me 40 years to do it but better late than never. I think it was kind of an instantaneous action. I just got fed up and said no more. I was suffering from my inability and so were my kids. The one thing I didn’t want to happen was for them to follow in my foot steps but I already had seen my bad trait being absorbed by them. Not good.

Learn to say NO

  1. First step is don’t be afraid. I think that is where it all stems from. We are afraid to say no. What are your fears and reason from holding you back? If you said no, what are the consequences or gains from doing so? I’d say it’s a big gain from the start because you are doing and saying what YOU want to do. That in itself is a HUGE accomplishment. Congratulations for taking that step in the right direction.
  2. Realize that it’s okay to say no. Like I said before it’s your choice and no one else’s. It’s your body, mind, and decision. No one is going to benefit from saying no but you and that is a good thing. It’s time to take care of yourself. You only live on this planet one time so as quick as you can start doing what you want to.
  3. The first time you start saying no acknowledge the feeling you get from it. How did it feel? I know when I started saying no it was more than just a feeling. It was a life altering change for me. By saying no it was a chain effect. I felt like my confidence level went through the roof and that was monumental for me. Confidence is a key factor to accomplish anything in life. I truly believe that.
  4. Go with your gut. If you have that feeling way deep down in your gut that something is telling you no, then go with it. It sounds like such a cliche to some but I’m an avid fan of going with your gut instinct. Trust me it works.

I hope I helped someone, anyone with issues about saying no. Remember you have everything to gain from it. Good luck.

 

 

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Self Sabotage, No Money but Wants Mo Money..it can be done


I feel like my wheels are always spinning.  I seem to never get out of this vicious cycle of feeling poor. I am always asking myself, where in the world does my money go? Out the window that’s where. I spend it foolishly on nonsense and that’s about to end! 

So I found this free budget app called Daily Budget.  (No this isn’t an advertisement for them). It has a little piggy bank  as its icon and I found it very simple to use.

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First though I have a planner that I buy from Walmart every year to keep my appointments, subbing jobs, and ahh yes of course my bills in.  The planner cost $8 (if that)and without it I’d be lost.  It doesn’t have any bells or whistles. It’s just easy to follow because it has a month at a view glance which is great because you can see everything coming up right in front of you.

I love the idea of putting stickers in here or using bright colored markers but in reality I don’t have the time right now. That’s all a part of my bigger picture and my time management adventure that I’ll be tackling soon.

Sorry to cut this post short so for now I’m going to leave you with this but at the end of the week I’ll update you on my budgeting progress!!

No way two years later and I’m still here posting!!!


I just scrolled back to a blog post I did two years ago this coming March and I am happy to say I feel accomplished. It’s not that I accomplished anything major but I did continue on with my blog and I’m still here today.  So yes it’s possible to finish and continue what you started.  At times I feel like I can’t but that two year old post just confirmed and reassured me as well as gave me the confidence to keep going and so can you!!   Never give up! Anything is possible. That two year old post is found under “My Story” section.  Very interesting. Wow.  It’s amazing to go back and see what happened through the years.  Good, bad, or ordinary it’s interesting to see how life truly evolves. 

Oatmeal Raisin chewy, amazing, easy Cookies


My life is all about quick, easy, but getting it done right. These cookies fall into those three categories let me tell you.

The key to these amazing cookies is that you cannot over bake them. I repeat, do not over bake them. You like them soft and chewy right? Then time them and keep checking.

Another thing you must know before you start to make these is, I have to give you heads up, you have to chill the cookie dough mixture for at lease 20 mins. I know time these days is a factor for everyone, especially me! Hey 20 minutes is 20 minutes right?

In addition, if you want to store the dough for a long period of time,  you can freeze the dough but make sure you roll your cookie balls out first and then when your ready to bake them, throw them right in the over frozen.

Ingredients

(You can do this now or when your mix is chilling, pre-heat your oven first at 350 degrees and I get two cookie sheets ready before I even start) You can use parchment paper or just make sure they won’t burn and stick to the pan. My cookie sheets are from Pampered chef and they are non-stick which I love. But if you don’t have non-stick just use parchment paper.

1 cup (2 sticks of unsalted butter, softened to room temp (if you forget to take your butter out, just throw it in the microwave for about 9 to 11 seconds) it works for me.

1 cup of light or brown sugar (packed, aka measured exactly)

1/4 granulated (white) sugar

2 eggs

1 Tablespoon of maple syrup or molasses (seriously don’t stress if you don’t have either of those ingredients, you can also use honey watered down with a little apple cider)

1 Tablespoon of vanilla extract

1 and 1/2 cups of all-purpose flour

1 teaspoon baking SODA

1 and 1/2 teaspoons of ground cinnamon

1/2 teaspoon salt

3 cups of old fashioned rolled oats

1 cup of raisins

1/2 cup of chopped walnuts (optional) those are usually by special request only in my house

Step one

From the above ingredient list take the softened butter and sugars, and mix with a hand mixer. Mix in the two eggs one at a time. Add in the syrup(or substitution)and the vanilla extract.  After combining those, set aside.

Step two

Add the flour, baking SODA, ground cinnamon, and salt together and mix up with a fork. Next, mix in your wet ingredients with those dry ingredients. On a low mix speed, throw in your oats, raisins, and nuts until well blended.

Now I didn’t always believe this was necessary but you do have to chill the cookie mix before you bake them. At least 20 minutes. It makes a difference in the way they come out. I chilled it as one big ball but if you want to roll out each cookie about a teaspoon heap, or just scoop and drop. Two reasons I didn’t chill as individual cookies is one, I didn’t have room in my freezer to put the cookie sheets in there and two I liked to roll them when they are harder so the mixture didn’t stick to my hands.

After chilling, bake at 350 9 to 11 mins. Make sure they stay light in color and put your oven rack in the middle or upper level so the bottoms don’t burn!

Good luck and remember, don’t over bake!!